Sex For Dummies (For Dummies: Psychology & Self Help)

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Important information is highlighted with little pictures, called icons, lurking in the margins. Here’s what the ones used in this book signify: Tip In the 21st century, this process of misinformation and confusion can’t continue. In the past, we had rules in place to guide us so that, even if we didn’t understand human sexuality all that well, as long as we followed the rules and got married before having sex, we couldn’t stray too far. Fertilization occurs when the chromosomes and genes from both the sperm and the egg combine to form one single cell, called a zygote. As a result, instead of an identical copy of one of the parents (a clone), fertilization creates a unique individual that shares features of both parents. So now you know the reason you have your father’s nose and your mother’s feet: At least once in their lives, your parents mingled their genetic material.

Wherever you begin, relax and read on. I guarantee that, by the end of this book, you can take the dunce cap that you may be wearing off your head and perhaps replace it with a condom somewhere else! Part I Getting Ready for Sex In this part . . . The great thing about phone sex is that it allows you to talk about what you like—but don’t forget the sex aspect of phone sex, Michels says. Touching yourself while you speak and listen is likely part of the equation. “Being able to touch one’s own body, and not worrying about whether or not the other person is going to judge them for it, is a huge plus,” Michels explains. In fact, the person on the other end of the line probably wants you to touch yourself. Because baby making can be so easy, many women find themselves pregnant without intending to be. So here’s my first of many tips: Tip The embryo releases a hormone called hCG. When the hCG reaches the mother’s bloodstream, it signals that she is pregnant and causes the ovaries to continue producing the hormones estrogen and progesterone, which are necessary to maintain the pregnancy. Pauls RN. Anatomy of the clitoris and the female sexual response. Clin Anat. 2015 Apr;28(3):376-84.

How do you even start having phone sex?

I also include material for gays and lesbians. Straight readers may want to skip those parts, but gays and lesbians shouldn’t ignore most of this book’s contents, because much of the information doesn’t depend on the sex of your partner. Of course gays and lesbians don’t have to worry about causing an unintended pregnancy, and neither do seniors, so those groups definitely can skip that material. Foolish Assumptions And as much as I wish such things as the Tooth Fairy, Santa Claus, and safe sex really existed, sadly they don’t. But you can enjoy safer sex if you know how, so this part also includes information on sexually transmitted diseases and how you can prevent catching one. A chapter on how to talk to kids about sex, keeping them safe from strangers, and protecting them while they use the Internet wraps up this part. Part V: The Part of Tens

Provided that they’re as into the idea as you are, you can use the initial chat to talk about likes and dislikes, or—if both of you are willing and able—you can transition from, “This is something I’d like to do,” to, “Let’s do this right now.” There’s no wrong way to approach the conversation as long as you make sure everyone is excited about participating. Okay, but what do you actually say? Examining an individual’s sexual response cycle is integral to the diagnosis that sex therapists make of anyone who comes to them with a sexual problem. Understanding the various categories of the sexual response cycle can also help you to become the best possible lover, so read the following definitions very carefully. Becoming aware of when mittelschmerz occurs is a good point of reference for anyone practicing natural family planning. I talk more about family planning in Chapter 5. Foreplay can be anything you want it to be — oral, a massage, taking a shower together. But whatever you do, make sure you and your partner are fully present. Set the mood with candles or tinted light bulbs. Candlelight will add romance to the space, while soft red bulbs will give the area a sensual touch.There are many ways you can implement tantric principles when you’re alone. But remember, the end game isn’t always masturbation — you can work up to solo play or decided not to go there at all. Meditation

Another classic form of foreplay, the Compliment is an easy addition to anyone’s sexual repertoire. Ask your partner to kneel, just behind the edge of your bed. Then, kneel on the ground in front of them. Adjust as necessary until you can easily reach their genitals, and then stimulate them using your mouth, your hands, or a sex toy. Pendant Looking for the straight facts on sex? In this friendly, authoritative guide, renowned sex therapist Dr. Ruth gives you the latest on everything from oral sex and popular positions to new methods of birth control. She also debunks sex myths and covers new therapies to manage low libido, overcome sexual dysfunction, and enhance pleasure. Tell your partner what you like. When they touch and play with you, call out what you’re enjoying and ask them to continue. Have your partner do the same. How did they study the sexual response cycle? They observed more than 10,000 sexual acts in their laboratories. Because even the most serious voyeur would probably have had enough after about the first 1,000, you can appreciate that they were really very dedicated scientists. bullet You’re reasonable enough not to engage in risky behavior after the dangers have been pointed out to you.

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Synchronize your breathing. You can try inhaling and exhaling together, or inhaling as your partner exhales.