The Truth About Chastity: A Tease and Denial Handbook

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It's a top-notch item,'' he says, staring at it. ''Unusual. It's, ah, amazing that 'they' keep coming up with innovative things - even in 2012. That's … got to be good news for the fashion industry!'' He had to wear the device anytime that I was going on a date regardless of what his key holder allowed. I made it explicit that I would not promise that I would keep his secret from my dates. However, at first I did keep the device secret. That would change later. Sometimes, it’s good to go into something blind and find your own way of doing things. However, with chastity, we advise you to do some heavy research. We all know that abstaining from orgasms can improve our sex life because it builds up excitement, and there’s also an element of suspense. However, chastity includes much more than that. Chastity cages are typically exactly the name suggests: a more-or-less penis-shaped cage, made form plastic or metal, that completely encloses his penis so he can’t stimulate it enough to have an orgasm. Unlike a chastity belt, a cage is usually held in place by a ring that goes around the scrotum and base of the penis behind the testicles themselves.

As noted in the first part of this post, a keyholder can be anyone as long as that person consents to fill the role. Most commonly for men in relationships, it is the caged male’s wife or intimate partner. A guy not in a relationship doesn’t have this built-in option. That can make finding a keyholder at least somewhat more challenging. But it is not impossible. Chastity For Lust And The Fun Of It All Chastity devices are an ideal way for partners to tease each other. What’s more, they achieve arousal and orgasm denial, which is the main goal of chastity.The first credible usage of chastity belts as tools to help one abstain from sexual impulses appears to be in the 19th century, where they were used to keep women from masturbating. Nowadays, chastity belts are worn by people wanting to stave off any unwanted sexual urges and keep themselves pure until marriage. Ironically, they also enjoy a fair amount of usage in the BDSM community, though we won’t be touching upon that in this article. Instead, we’ll be focusing our attention on the former, and attempting to access what chastity belts do to our thinking and our psychology.

Finally I want to highlight the psychological impact of chastity on the person that doesn’t wear the cage. As a keyholder (the person that keeps the key to someone’s chastity device) there are expectations and pressures that many won’t consider. You hold the key to someone’s happiness and enjoyment in your hands. In my relationship I know the commitment it takes taking on my role and I accept that with pleasure, but for others that dedication might be too much to handle. Know your limits and communicate openly, otherwise you’ll likely fail.” This article needs additional citations for verification. Please help improve this article by adding citations to reliable sources. Unsourced material may be challenged and removed. The erection is not completely suppressed and the swelling puts some pressure on my testicles (which appear by themselves grow bigger and more full during the night). Can there be other complications from this pressure?Most of us have females as platonic friends. A good many of us have ex-girlfriends. Both of those are good options. I have always tended to remain friends with my ex-girlfriends after the romantic relationships ended. Just because we weren’t a good fit for a relationship doesn’t mean they aren’t perfectly good friends. Out of my last four ex-girlfriends, I’d be comfortable with asking three of them to be my keyholder. At least two of those I’m pretty sure would agree to do it. I also have two female friends I’ve never dated that are definite maybes. Erotic humiliation can also help enforce the dominant's position in the relationship. Orgasm denial is often accompanied by other forms of erotic humiliation such as forcing the submissive to do chores, crossdress, or consume bodily fluids. These can be used as punishments, as conditions for release, or simply at the discretion of the dominant. Similarly to our previous tip, switching sides is important because it gives you the necessary experience. If you have no idea how the other side feels, you’ll never be able to relate to or understand their desires, wants, and ultimate kinks. Only when you fully understand your partner can you give them what they need from you and vice versa. Rose (18 August 2014). "Rose Answers: Premature Ejaculation 101". Pure Pleasure Shop. Archived from the original on 30 August 2018 . Retrieved 31 August 2018. [ unreliable source?]

Many women complain that chastity devices are fun when there is sex involved, such as when I am meeting my date and my husband is caged. It gets into both of our heads and creates a fun dynamic. But what about the rest of the week which is filled with work and commitments? We had some rules to remind ourselves of his role. For instance, I dressed first for work and he remained naked until I left the house. This gave him time to make my coffee, make the bed and do other household chores. The presence of the cage, made this routine a little more lively. He wore the cage to work, the gym, and walking the dog. At first, I was not interested. It did not turn me on and i did not see any benefit to me. However, he brought the subject up several times and it caused me to think again. Obviously, he was turned on by the idea; it seemed fair for me to play along — at least a little; for the sake of marital peace. Once you are in an ideal state and ready to attach the device, treat lubricant as your new best friend! Ideally use a water based lube that won’t interfere with the material of your device (silicone lube should not be used with silicone devices) and apply liberally to your genitals (shaft and testicles), you can also apply a small amount to the inside of the device but be aware you may then need to wear gloves to allow some friction to keep hold of the device during the next steps! Steer clear of any “tingle” or “heat” type novelty lubes and consider what will be best for your long-term comfort. 4. The base ring Our aim is to offer high quality products at affordable prices with discreet worldwide delivery. Many chastity belts that we've seen on the market are incredibly expensive and we don't think that's particularly fair, so we do our best to offer the best devices for the lowest prices. All of our products are thoroughly tested to ensure that you receive a safe, quality item that you’re happy to use on a regular basis. In the modern-day, infidelity usually ends up with a divorce. But occasionally it doesn’t. Sometimes, the victim of the infidelity will find it in their heart to forgive their cheating partner, with one condition. They have to be punished. And sometimes, wearing a chastity belt is part of that punishment. In this case, the psychological impact of wearing a chastity belt can be extremely potent. The wearer cannot run from the reminder of their betrayal, as it encases the anatomy of their infidelity. It cannot be taken off unless with a key, usually held by the cheater's spouse. The shame must be unbearable, especially because you can never ignore a steel cage around your privates. Every time you move, you feel its weight shift with yours, constantly guilt-tripping you for the things that you’ve done.Find sources: "Erotic sexual denial"– news · newspapers · books · scholar · JSTOR ( September 2018) ( Learn how and when to remove this template message) Switching roles is an ideal way to walk a mile in your partner’s shoes. Even if their role isn’t something you’d necessarily enjoy, it will give you an insight into their mind and feelings. Try Chastity Belts and Devices Professional Dommes are similar to professional dominatrices regarding the kind of services they offer. They, too, can be on the expensive side, but not usually as expensive as a professional dominatrix. Again, in larger cities, you may find them locally. Also, there are many of them online. Some charge per hour for sessions like their dominatrix sisters, but some offer basic enforced chastity keyholding services at a standard weekly rate. I’ve used one such online service, which was very reasonable in price. I asked my husband to make coffee for us. When he brought in the coffee, he nearly jumped out of the room. She took control right away and asked him to sit down and join us. She asked him questions about the cage and his intentions. She made it clear that he was not to interfere in her marriage in any way. There would be no sexual activity of any kind between them except related to the cage. She also made it clear that her husband did not approve and that my husband would have to respect his feelings and live with the outcome. Mistress Thorne has created this simple guide with images to talk you through each stage of the process. 1. Safety precautions