Friendaholic: THE NUMBER ONE SUNDAY TIMES BEST SELLER

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Academic and scientific lines of reasoning are used in this book to provide a bit of starch to an otherwise completely subjective book. I'm just not sure Day's experiences of friendship are representative of the core experience for most people.

It can be quite a minefield at times especially as you get older, but also I know what I want from friendships these days, so I suppose it’s a bit easier in some ways. I’ve thought lots while reading this about my friends, and about how I act as a friend, and came out of this reading experience feeling I better understood what friendship means in my life, how to be a better friend, and with more conscious gratitude for my friends than I have had in some time. My cleverest friend thinks you should cultivate loads of them, do all the emotional stuff on sosh media and throw one party a year to control the spend. I, like Elizabeth, felt that quantity somehow reflected on my own self worth, and more friends would stave off the residual fear that adolescent bullying left me with.Yet you persist with the friendship, driven by the belief that letting it fade would be pretty much a crime against humanity. So if you are still, as Day was at one point, determined to maintain every friendly connection you’ve ever had, it is an index not of your niceness but of your desperate need to hang on to several skips’ worth of emotional lumber.

The title of the book is not, as it turns out, some clever publisher’s gimmick; rather, it’s a bald confession of Day’s own recovery from codependency, in which her own self-worth was defined by the opinions of others. From ghosting to frenemies, to social media and communication styles, to the impact of seismic life events, Elizabeth leaves no stone untouched.They share activities, such as sports, where their attention is focused on the same goals but not on one another. The second half of Friendaholic descends into women's-magazine-style puff (some people say social media makes them feel lonely, while others find it a useful way to keep in touch! This examination on friendship; as a phenomenon, as a life force, as a thing that shapes our lives and our selves, truly captured my attention and my imagination. Yet we rarely stop to examine those hurts and joys; family and romance take up all the air in the proverbial room. If you have more than seven then you are likely to suffer exhaustion from trying to juggle everyone’s needs.

I started off really not liking it and almost put it down, I just thought it came from a really privileged perspective and that wasn’t acknowledged enough - like addiction is a huge illness and saying your addicted to friendship is taking the piss a bit!g. "double tap to like" and "ghosting" interspersed with interviews with friends about friendship e. From the journalist and author of How to Fail comes a disarmingly honest and perceptive investigation into the nature of friendship, prompted by Day's lockdown reassessment of her need for a large group of companions.