Your Guide to Better Sex

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In 2012, many of the women getting married had grown up at the height of purity culture. They had read the Brio magazine articles that made her feel like any sexual feelings were bad. They had been told their whole lives that the rest of the world was evil and depraved, but she wasn’t because she was pure. They had been told that their worth was in their virginity.

If you’re doing something that makes you feel good, it’s only going to add to your life. It’s not going to take away.”Similarly, asking your partner what they like or telling your partner what you want to do is a great way to make discussions around consent sexy. “Make consent part of your dirty talk,” Mourikis suggests.

One of the most destructive myths of porn is that it convinces so many guys that they’re too small,” Castleman says. “They forget that pornography is self-selecting...These are not average men. They’re the extreme end of the scale.” Reading this now (well actually listening via Audiobook), and while you have made the case that sex is mutual (which once upon a time I thought too!), you’ve also alluded to what I would still term “obligation”….. but maybe that’s just because I fell hook, line, sinker into believing sex was just for men, every three days, man’s need, etc. etc. that I just don’t know what healthy looks like anymore?!? I can’t remember the wording, but what I heard was that you should want to take care of the others “desire/ burn”…. You get to be that person……. As I mentioned, it was something along those lines and when I hear that guilt ensues because that still feels like I’m only there to “take care of his “need””. If my body is feeling tense, but we’ve not connected what do ever during the day…. To be like “hey, let’s do it” feels like I’m using my SO. And vice versa, if roles reversed.But while you might not have to worry about unwanted pregnancy at this age, it’s vital to protect yourself against sexually transmitted diseases. Falling oestrogen levels in the lead-up to – and following – the menopause causes women to produce less vaginal lubrication, which can make sex uncomfortable and reduce the likelihood of orgasm. Gallo MF, Steiner MJ, Warner L, Hylton-Kong T, Figueroa JP, Hobbs MM, et al. Self-reported condom use is associated with reduced risk of chlamydia, gonorrhea, and trichomoniasis. Sex Transm Dis. 2007;34:829-833. According to Michael Castleman, a San Francisco-based sex expert and author of Great Sex: A Man’s Guide to the Secret Principles of Total-Body Sex, the average frequency of sex in committed long-term relationships is roughly once every 10 days.